Resources
Limits and life at home
You can start with the one closest to what you need to look at right now. You don't have to read them all.
Limits with warmth: how to keep rules in place without losing the connection
Why a clear limit is a form of care, and how to hold it without the relationship suffering.
2 min read
What's expected in adolescence and what deserves attention
Many conflicts grow because we read something that is part of growing up as a problem. How to tell the difference.
2 min read
Ten phrases to open difficult conversations
Sometimes the desire to talk is there: what's missing is knowing how to start without setting off a conflict.
2 min read
When agreements get broken: how to come back to them without losing your cool
The question isn't whether agreements will get broken, but when. What to do so the situation doesn't escalate.
2 min read
Signs that a limit needs revisiting
Sometimes a limit isn't kept because it isn't clear, isn't reasonable for their age or was set without their input.
2 min read
Looking at my own role as the adult
Part of the wear and tear around limits has to do with the adult's exhaustion and automatic reactions. Looking at that is not blaming yourself.
2 min read
When the adults at home don't agree
A limit that one adult sets and another lifts stops giving structure. How to agree between adults without fighting in front of the kids.
2 min read
When life at home gets very hard: where to start and how to ask for help
For when conflicts happen daily and no agreements work anymore. A clear starting point.
4 min read
To go deeper
Raíces is a space for looking at your own history with limits, back when you were the child.