If your teen talks about hurting themselves or not wanting to live

• Take it seriously, even if they say it in passing, as a joke or in a moment of anger.

• Ask directly and calmly: "Are you thinking about hurting yourself?" Asking does not put the idea in their head. It may be what lets them ask for help.

• Listen to the answer without scolding or arguing. "Thank you for telling me. You won't go through this alone."

• If they say yes, or you can't tell: stay close and don't leave them alone. Put medications and anything they could use to hurt themselves out of reach. And get help today.

Where to get help today: a hospital emergency room, your local emergency number or a crisis line.